Bizarre Part II

Why are people so damn weird?

A man broke into a home in Fresno CA, where two men were sleeping. He rubbed spices on the body of one of the men, then used an 8-inch sausage to smack the other man in the face and head before running out of the house. Police later found the man in a field. The house was ransacked and money was stolen....in addition to the sausage and spices.

This is just flat out bizarre.......

A police officer, patrolling a park late at night, witnessed a young woman and an older man coming out of a port-o-let. Both were sweating profusely, their clothes were in disarray and the officer suspected them of having sex. When he confronted the pair, they vehemently denied a sexual encounter and stated they had only been smoking crack!! He found a crack pipe and fresh residue and placed the woman (26) under arrest. The man (56) was cited for violating park curfew and was released at the scene.

Now at the same time, officers were answering a call concerning possible child abandonment. As it turns out, the above mentioned woman left her 2 year old and 6 month old baby in the care of a 17 year old homeless teenager while she went to smoke crack with a perfect stranger, in a port-a-potty... in a park... at night. When the officers arrived the teen was trying to feed the screaming and crying infant from a bottle. The teen admitted he did not know the woman, but knew the children were hers. Upon further questioning, the officers discovered the 17 year old was mentally challenged and was incapable of caring for the children. The woman also has a 4 year old son and all three children were placed in foster care after being examined at a local hospital. Child Protective Services investigators are also looking into reports that the woman may have a fourth child, a 9 year old boy.

This just makes my blood boil and reinforces what I have been preaching for years....some people should not be allowed to reproduce. If she is found guilty, I think part of her sentence should be mandatory sterilization and termination of her parental rights. She's 26, has four children, leaves the two youngest with a mentally challenged homeless kid and who knows where the other two were? The article didn't mention where the 4 year old was found.

As a single parent, I can tell you it's not an easy job. But at NO time did I ever say, "Screw it...I think I'll find a crack head, go to a park, jump in a portable toilet and smoke a pipe or two...oh and hang on...I need to find someone with the IQ of a cucumber to watch my kids. "

I only hope these poor babies find a loving home, with a family who cares about them. And the mother needs to clean her act up, because the next guy she buddies up with may have more sinister motives than getting high on crack......

These people make my butt tired...

I just love people who choose to remain ignorant. Don't know the situation? Well, make shit up!!! No clue what's going on? Improvise!! Bored with your own dreary life? Liven it up with lies, unfounded rumors and conspiracy theories! And last but not least, when making a choice, be sure to blame someone else if that choice doesn't pan out to your liking!!! These are the things that make disgruntled, bitter people feel better about their lot in life.

We all make choices. And we have to live with whatever we choose. The path we take is no one's decision but our own. Make the wrong choice? Then do something about it! You can change anything. If you screw up, try and fix it. Don't blame someone else for your bad decisions. I find it baffling when people try to find someone else to blame for their unhappiness.

I'm sorry...I chose not to blindly jump off a cliff like a demented lemming. I chose to follow my heart and my gut after careful consideration and talking to all parties involved to get as much information as I possibly could. I chose to remain in my comfort zone after being told to make up my own mind and not base anything on the decisions of others. Apparently, that was the undoing of what I felt was a true friendship. These particular friends define friendship as follows....

* You can be my friend but only if you think exactly like me

* You can be my friend but only if you follow me blindly, no questions asked

* You can be my friend but only if you like the same people I do and of course hate anyone I hate

* You can be my friend if you pledge undying allegiance and always remember I made cookies for you. If I bake for you, you owe me.

* You can be my friend but only if you follow certain conditions that I put forth. These conditions may be changed at any time without prior notice

* You can be my friend only if you follow the above guidelines and any others my irrational mind comes up with

So, after careful consideration, I have decided to NOT be your friend. I have friends who love me unconditionally despite my many quirks and flaws. They accept me for who I am and the great thing about them is this....our friendship has no rules!! What a freakin' AWESOME concept!!!

You should try it sometime.

Rudeness in America

I was out of town July 5th-6th. I was driving in unfamiliar territory and made a minor (very minor) mistake while merging into traffic. The young man in the other car slammed on his brakes (completely unnecessary) and proceeded to stare me down for a good ten seconds, then mouthed a few choice words and slowly went on his way, still glaring at me like I had done something so foul, I should be executed on the spot. I had out of state license plates and while I was in the wrong, it should have been clear by my hesitation and subsequent reaction that this was not a calculated attempt to bully my way into traffic.

This just reinforces what I have witnessed time and time again in the last few years. People are ticked off and looking for any excuse to get in a confrontation, no matter how minor the situation. What the hell is wrong with you people??? Mistakes happen. People make mistakes. It's a fact of life and I'm quite certain even those that react like that young man have made their share of mistakes. Of course, if they screw up, they feel it's the fault of someone else and fail to see that they *may* have made an error in judgment. Horrors!!!! Frankly, I'm sick of the sense of entitlement some people carry around. Maybe some day they will realize..... No one owes you squat. Learn some tolerance and patience. Toss in a large dose of humility. It does wonders for the soul and maybe, just maybe, it will make you a better person.

Here’s the deal....

Life has a way of slapping you upside the head and saying... "Nope, you can't have it easy". It will consistently throw seemingly insurmountable obstacles in your path and sometimes it's difficult to find your way. Maybe the trick is *how* you navigate and overcome the curve balls life throws at you.

We all have inner strength. We just have to dig really deep sometimes to find it. Even in our darkest hours, that strength is there, waiting to be tapped. We can use it to help us deal with the loss of a loved one, divorce, financial hardships and betrayal.

The death of a loved one is the most devastating. You mourn the loss forever, but you learn to live with the pain and cherish the memories. Time heals.

Divorce is like death. In fact, it's the death of a promise that was supposed to be eternal. You go through stages of anger, hurt, revenge and finally resignation. This too takes time but you do heal.

Financial hardships are trying and maddening. Especially when you are laid off and it's back to pounding the pavement. Find a job, work hard and carefullly budget, this too passes in time. It's still a big obstacle but one that can be overcome.

Betrayal. That's a tough one. I may expound on this one a bit more than the others. A confidence can be betrayed. So can a friendship. Depending on the circumstances, a simply apology can go a long way, if the transgression was without malice and the apology is heartfelt. Betrayal of trust is one that I have a hard time forgiving, as well as betrayal of the heart. Usually, everyone gets one free pass on both of these. After that, I'm done. And this especially applies to my family. I am more protective of my child than I am of myself. Hurt her and I go into mama bear mode. I refuse to keep believing anyone who time and again proves what comes out of their mouth is total crap. As my wonderfully wise Miss Daisy (mom) always said.....Actions speak louder than words. Say whatever you like, but if the actions don't back it up , then shame on you. And shame on me for buying whatever bull shit you're selling. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear, simply because it's makes your life more convenient. If you feel compelled to spew something complimentary or insincere just to hide the fact that you're a lying dog, then stfu. I see you for what you are and as painful as that may be, it's fact. I accept that fact and move on. All the flowery compliments will not hide insincerity forever. It merely masks it.

I know...I sound jaded. But those who know me best also know I shoot from the hip. If you want my advice, I will speak from my heart. If you want someone to tell you only what you want to hear, go ask someone else. I won't lie to you and I won't fabricate shit simply because it suits my agenda. And anyone who does that is not someone I can respect.